I also always wanted a big family, when I was younger I thought it would be great to have3 or 4 kids. I was an only child until I was 12 and hated it. I even went so far to ask for a baby sister on my Christmas list when I was a kid! Now that I am older and wiser (well older anyways) I am realizing that having a large family is not as simple as it seems for many reasons – emotional, financial, logistics…
|June 2010 – 30 weeks pregant|
Before we had A.C. I was SURE that we would have at least 2 kids, and that I wanted them to be pretty close in age. I never really understood how couples could have “just one”. Didn’t they want to experience joy of having a new baby more than once? Didn’t they love watching their child grow and discover the world around them? How could they not want to do that again?
Then I had a child of my own… I went through the sleep deprivation, the adjustment of our family life, having to work on my relationship with JAM to make sure we didn’t lose “us”, learning burden of worry and mom guilt that every mother carries – and it makes me rethink going back for round #2
You get into a rhythm, life is comfortable right now, we know what to expect (well sort of, the toddler tantrums are a bit unpredictable). And the thought of changing all that again is scary. How will I find the time in my already overflowing schedule to give TWO children all the love and attention they deserve? Where do you find the time to cook, clean or chat with a girlfriend? What about the cost of having two kids in daycare? How would A.C. handle having a little brother or sister?
I really thought by this point having a second child would not be a difficult decision at all, but things do not always go as planned. If you have more than one child, how did you know you were “ready” for #2? Or did you just go for it and hope you landed on your feet?